If you’re anything like me, it’s really easy for you to judge others, it’s really easy for you to wonder why your friend, family member, classmate or coworker just can’t seem to pull their life together, recognize their flaws. You’re trying to figure out how they’re are so comfortable with their sin, so comfortable being lukewarm. I get it. That’s when I have to remind myself of Jesus’ words in Luke 6:41-42 (read below). How can I judge, or even help, my neighbor to address their sin, when I haven’t yet dealt with my own mess!?
Here’s the thing, I’ve decided to consciously recognize that God has given me grace, favor, and forgiveness (that I certainly don’t deserve), in spite of my habitual sins and “prayers of repentance’ that I have given him over the years. So, how can I determine that someone else’s habitual sin is worse than mine. That’s not my place. That’s not my job. How can I help my loved ones to address their sins, when I refuse to effectively address my own first?
Here’s what I CAN do: What I can do is show you love in the same way that God loves me through my mess. He loves me, he tests me, challenges me, and allows me my heart to break in order to pull me out of my mess and to draw me closer to him. What I can do is love my neighbor, family member, friend, coworker, classmate, like God does. Make NO mistake… loving doesn’t mean that I have to cosign or enable your habitual sin. My loving should be unconditional (like God’s love for me). My love for God, and my love for my neighbor, should encourage them to draw closer to God, thus abandoning their sinful ways. So, what I CAN and WILL do is Love My Neighbor unconditionally. <= follow this link to purchase your own “Love Thy Neighbor” apparel from one of my favorite non-profits organizations The Happy Givers.
Remember: God’s love doesn’t cease based on someone’s age, skin color, sexuality, gender confusion, socioeconomic status or religion. God’s love does NOT cosign sin or wickedness. God’s love does NOT allow relationship with the Father, except through Jesus Christ (John 14:6). God’s love DOES patiently wait for the lost to come back home. God’s love DOES grant undeserved grace and mercy. God’s love DOES grant forgiveness and relationship through his son. So, continue to pray for your loved ones and for your peers, that they may see his love through you.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-7 ESV
(4) Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant (5) or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;b (6) it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. (7) Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
your sister in Christ, Mo 🙂